primitive reflex integration for nervous system reset

A gentle invitation... to connect with your body, come home to your SELF.

"Connection with your body feels like home — a place of safety, strength, and peace. Let’s return to the space within you where healing begins, and transformation unfolds." 

Do you feel like your body is always on edge, like you're living from the neck up, disconnected from your physical self?
Are you highly sensitive to touch—or not able to feel much at all?
Do you struggle with boundaries, burnout, or emotional overwhelm?

You’re not broken.
You may simply be stuck in a survival pattern rooted in your nervous system—and it started much earlier than you think.

Welcome to MyShelle Method, where I guide you in returning to a space of inner peace, emotional balance, and physical well-being. With a holistic approach to nervous system healing, reflex integration, and personal empowerment, you 'Come Home to Your Body' and create lasting transformation. 

And it starts here, with the Bonding Reflex, tactile integration therapy.

The Bonding Reflex emerges at birth (and even in utero) and is activated through skin-to-skin contact, eye gazing, smell, vocal tone, and nurturing touch. 

These sensory experiences initiate the release of oxytocin—often called the “love hormone”—which helps regulate stress, encourages trust, and promotes a sense of well-being.

If this reflex is fully activated and integrated during early life, it forms the foundation for:

• Secure attachment and trust in others
• Comfort with physical closeness and touch 
• Emotional regulation and social development

If this reflex is underdeveloped or disrupted (due to trauma, NICU separation, adoption, etc.), you may:

• Struggle with people-pleasing, fear of rejection, or feeling unlovable. 
• Have a nervous system that doesn’t “settle” in connection. 
• Avoid intimacy or over-attach out of fear of abandonment.

This reflex is the root to WHY you may or may not feel at home in your body, since birth.

The Bonding Reflex is closely tied to the tactile system because it depends on nurturing physical contact to be activated and integrated. Every gentle touch, cuddle, or warm embrace is not just emotional—it is neurological.

 The bonding reflex is a natural response in the human body that helps create emotional and physical connections between people. It is especially important in forming close relationships, such as between a parent and a baby, or between partners. This reflex is linked to the release of oxytocin, often called the "love hormone," which promotes feelings of trust, safety, and affection.

In babies, the bonding reflex helps them feel secure and loved, which is crucial for healthy emotional and physical development. In adults, this reflex supports building and maintaining close relationships, improving emotional well-being, and reducing stress. It plays a key role in creating a sense of connection and belonging with others.

Through tactile input, the reflex signals the nervous system to:

• Calm down and feel safe (parasympathetic activation)
• Produce oxytocin and dopamine (neurochemicals for connection and pleasure) 
• Map safety and affection into the body

That’s where the Tactile System comes in.

The tactile system is the body system responsible for your first sensory language—developing in the womb long before sight or sound. 

It’s how your nervous system learned to interpret the world:

Am I safe? Am I wanted? Am I allowed to feel? 

Where am I? Who am I? What can my body do? 

The tactile system is your first sensory language—developing in the womb long before sight or sound. It’s how your nervous system learned to interpret the world:
Am I safe? Am I wanted? Am I allowed to feel?

Touch shaped your earliest survival responses.
If that touch was inconsistent, invasive, painful, or absent, your nervous system learned to stay on high alert—or shut down altogether.

This early programming affects:

• Your ability to regulate stress
• Your sense of emotional and physical boundaries
• Your capacity to feel safe inside your own body
• Your relationship with yourself and others

That’s where Tactile Integration comes in.

Tactile Integration is not massage—it's neurological re-patterning through the skin. Through the Bonding Reflex, by stimulating the tactile receptors through specific, rhythmic touch and reflex-based techniques, we help your brain:

🌀 Downregulate the chronic fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response
🧠 Rewire survival reflexes that keep you stuck in overreaction or shutdown
💓 Restore a felt sense of self-worth, presence, and embodiment

This work lays the foundation for true healing—not by bypassing the body, but by inviting it back online through the language of touch.

This you, coming home to your body.

When your tactile system has been shaped by trauma, neglect, or hypervigilance, you may unconsciously:

• Disassociate from your body
• Struggle to know what you need
• Experience emotional numbness or overreaction
• Feel like you are  “too sensitive” or “not enough”
• Crave touch but feel uncomfortable receiving it
  

These are not personality flaws. They are nervous system adaptations.

Tactile Integration gently helps you reconnect with your inner self—so you no longer abandon your body when things get hard, but instead respond with conscious awareness. 

Each in-person session at MyShelle Method is unique to your nervous system, but may include:

✔️ Safe, guided tactile input to activate and calm specific sensory nerve endings
✔️ Primitive reflex techniques that reset survival patterns through rhythmic stimulation
✔️ Somatic coaching to help you interpret your body’s messages
✔️  Nurturing rituals that invite self-love, oxytocin, and inner connection

You remain clothed, in full control, and your pace is always honored. This is about teaching your body how to trust again.

 This work is for adult women navigating:

• Chronic dysregulation (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
• Birth trauma or medical trauma
• Emotional neglect or high-sensitivity childhoods
• Unhealed mother wounds or attachment struggles
• Relationship wounds, breakups, or betrayal
• A longing to feel more present, embodied, and nourished
  

Whether you're a mother, a bodyworker, or simply someone longing to feel at home in your body, this therapy helps you create a secure base—starting from the skin inward.

 Tactile Integration Sessions Available In-Person in Kelowna or "Self-Help"  Application through Coaching Online
Limited spaces. Sessions fill quickly.

➡️ Book a Clarity Call Now
Let’s explore if this is the missing piece in your healing journey.

➡️  Learn About Reflex Integration Coaching
Looking for online support? Explore my full-body nervous system coaching programs.

 The healing begins when you can finally COME HOME TO YOUR BODY.