Where neuroscience meets nurturing, one reflex at a time...
Mother Your Nervous System™
Blending nervous system RECODE somatic coaching, education and reflex integration unwind stress patterns that started in early childhood. At the core, our work is about learning to mother your nervous system ~ so you stop abandoning yourself when things get hard, and start showing up as the person you are deep down.
About the MyShelle Method
What “Mother Your Nervous System” Means...
I blend Nervous System Recode somatic coaching, education, and reflex integration to unwind stress patterns that started early.
At the core, Mother Your Nervous System means learning how to stay with yourself when life gets hard — so you stop abandoning your needs, your body, and your truth.
What “Mother Your Nervous System” means:
Listening to what your body is asking for (not just what you “should” do)
Understanding the reflex roots behind your reactions
Updating old survival patterns so your system feels held instead of on alert
Practical self-mothering looks like:
Comfort, not criticism.
Boundaries, not over-giving.
Rest, not pushing through.
Here we weave:
Primitive Reflex Integration - shift stress responses automatically.
Somatic Coaching - to calm and re-pattern the subconscious & the body.
Nervous system education – understanding your own triggers and “cry codes.”
Nervous System RECODING – so you can change your reactions in real time.
I help people shift to being able to mother themselves first.
Mother Your Nervous System™ is my signature method that blends neuroscience, somatic coaching, and primitive reflex education to help you reconnect with your adult body ~ and that changes everything in your nervous system.
I lead you through live, intimate experiences of a variety of offerings including workshops that lead into group coaching and deeper one-on-one work for those ready to go deeper.
Because the truth is… before we can thrive, we must feel safe.
And before we can feel safe, we must learn to Mother the Nervous System.
Where neuroscience meets nurturing, one reflex at a time.
The 4 Anchors of the Myshelle Method
Centering – Coming Home to Yourself
Bonding – Returning to Safety in Connection
Bonding – Returning to Safety in Connection
Before you can connect with others or serve from overflow, you must land inside your own body.
The Centering Anchor restores your connection to your gut knowing—the inner compass you were born with.
This is where we repair the freeze, the fog, and the collapse that come from being untethered.
In this stage, we work with the Centering Reflex and orienting systems to restore:
- Felt safety in the body
- The ability to pause, sense, and choose
- Trust in your “yes” and “no” without second-guessing
When you’re centered, your nervous system stops bracing for life ~and starts responding from presence.
Core belief restored:
“I trust myself. I am safe in my body. I know what’s right for me.”
Bonding – Returning to Safety in Connection
Bonding – Returning to Safety in Connection
Bonding – Returning to Safety in Connection
This anchor is about restoring the blueprint of safe touch, closeness, and emotional intimacy.
We work with the Bonding Reflex and oxytocin systems to release the deep patterns of disconnection:
- Withdrawing to self-protect
- Fawning to stay attached
- Feeling numb, guarded, or hyper-sensitive to closeness
This work isn’t about forcing connection.
It’s about remembering what it feels like to be held and seen… without fear.
We begin where the nervous system first learned: I can reach. I can be received.
Core belief restored:
“I am safe to connect. I can be held. I belong.”
Receiving – Restoring Nourishment & Breath
Receiving – Restoring Nourishment & Breath
Receiving – Restoring Nourishment & Breath
Receiving is where we repair the reflexive patterns of deprivation, control, and craving.
Rooted in the suck-swallow-breathe reflexes, this anchor addresses:
- Emotional eating
- Food as comfort or punishment
- Shallow breathing
- Resistance to help, support, or softness
In this stage, we untangle the survival belief that says:
“I must earn love.”
and replace it with:
“My needs matter. I can soften. I can receive.”
Your nervous system learns that nourishment—emotional and physical—is allowed.
Core belief restored:
“I am safe to receive. I am worthy of nourishment. I no longer starve myself for love.”
Giving – Overflow, Integrity & Purpose
Receiving – Restoring Nourishment & Breath
Receiving – Restoring Nourishment & Breath
Giving is not the start of the journey—it’s the outcome of nervous system integration.
This anchor represents the natural overflow that happens when you’re:
- Centered in your truth
- Bonded in safety
- Open to receiving support and care
Now, your body knows how to give without abandoning yourself.
You begin to act, speak, and serve from aligned intuition—not from hyper-responsibility, burnout, or people-pleasing.
This is where purpose lives. Where soul-led action begins. Where service becomes sacred.
Core belief restored:
“I give from overflow. My service is aligned with my body, my truth, and my soul.”
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You grew up WITHOUT the kind of mothering you needed.
Maybe your mom was:
Too busy or overwhelmed
Emotionally checked out
Doing her best but not really there
Loving in some ways but not able to truly attune to you
Now you’re the one who:
Holds everything together
Takes care of everyone else
Knows a lot about healing and self-awareness…
But still has a body that feels anxious, braced, lonely, or numb
A part of you is starting to see:
“I didn’t get the mothering my nervous system needed ~ and I don’t want to keep repeating this.”
You can’t go back and redo your childhood.
But you can learn how to mother yourself now ~ in your body, your nervous system, and your daily life.
That’s the work we do together.
I will teach you how to Mother your Nervous System™: to rewire old stress responses, restore safety, and reconnect with your body’s natural calm.
The MyShelle Method works with the body’s original survival reflexes ~ the neurological patterns formed in infancy that shape how we respond to stress as adults.
With over two decades of experience in motherhood, health, fitness, and trauma recovery, I am a practitioner pioneering a new path in nervous system healing.
Education in the nervous system, primitive reflexes, somatic meditation, trauma, acupressure, kinesiology, and conscious education to list a few modalities in my toolbelt.
My signature philosophy, “Mothering the Nervous System,” invites clients to cultivate self-compassion and rebuild the body’s innate sense of safety through nurturing and understanding.
Through private coaching, workshops, and online programs, I helps clients rewire deep patterns of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn ~ blending neuroscience, somatic coaching, and trauma-informed reflex integration.
I guide clients to understand the language of their nervous system ~ transforming survival patterns into pathways of safety and self-trust.
I am now offering in-person sessions in Kelowna, BC, and Sherwood Park, AB, as well as online coaching worldwide.
Because the truth is… before we can thrive, we must feel safe.
Mothering your nervous system is the best way to show up as the woman you are deep down, because when you trust your body, you stop abandoning yourself.